Do you know the reason for much of the marriage breaks up? It is simple - the partners have not discussed the important issues before you play a wedding. If you do not want to repeat their mistakes - we offer you to explore topics that are sure to raise a serious conversation with your man.
Topic 1. The reasons for marriage.
The answer is "because I love you" in this case is not accepted, because it's important to get to the other, underlying, reasons for marriage. And they will be the key to understanding the basic needs of each other. Let each of you to make a list of several items - why he wants to marry (marry). Answers can be: 'because I want to have children, "because it requires my religion," because only marriage will provide the security, etc.
Once the lists will be drawn up - need to verify. Pay attention to those items that you have a match with a partner and, conversely, are different. If the process you feel uncomfortable, frustrated - it is a signal to make a serious talk and try to find a compromise between your needs.
Topic 2. Model family.
Each of you must examine - a relationship which families affected his life. It may be parents, uncles, aunts, friends, etc. Make a list of these pairs, then go for each item and ask yourself: what I want to borrow the family, and what to avoid?
Once you and your partner to make this one work, tell each other about its results, and discuss what you agree or disagree with each other. It is very important - because they are married you will subconsciously copying the behavior of other families. And if you do not understand how you came this or that desire, and what it can lead - you can "mess of things and spoil relations with her beloved.
Try to partner with an overall model of the family, which would suit both of you. You do not forget about such important part:
- Leisure: spend all their free time together or separately?
- Communicate with parents and friends: how close and frequent, it will be?
- Quarrels: how often they are allowed?
Topic 3. Your expectations.
Let each of you would be about a vision of how to proceed will be your "everyday labor", that is daily life together. You will both be working or someone you devote himself a household and raising children? Who will do the distribution of the budget and how will this budget - overall or separately? How do you divide the housework? These and other questions also need to consider before you get married. And if at the stage of discussion, disagreement arise - once worth trying to solve them.
Do not lose sight of any of these three themes - each in its own way is important to preserve your future marriage. Try to reach an understanding on all counts - and then you can be sure that we have done everything possible to create a family of their dreams.
Monday, November 23, 2009
Playing sex
Sexologist from Germany Arne Hoffman came up with 100 sex games new time for books "Ceks for advanced. Some of them can take note and you.
Playing first, virtual. We have written many times, come across as to correspond to Facebook `e Hollywood stars: they are each other passionate letters to send, then engaged in virtual sex. Not so this is surprising: having at hand a personal page of the desired object and the form to send a message - not a sin to write something like "I want you, my sweet as well as yesterday, in the midst of a busy day. Znakotoki argue that doing this is time before dinner, and at lunchtime the recipient and the sender is already somewhere not quite lunch.
Game Two. Tuning. Approximately 2000 years ago, the first lady of Egypt, Cleopatra ordered one of the first vibrators-bamboo with bees inside. How true this story, and how long kept bees own vibration inside bamboo. history is silent, but well aware that today the situation with vibrators changed for the better. One of the latest innovations - vibrator sides, one end of which vibrate for you, and the second - for him. Can you imagine this invention, considering that the entire structure is hollow and bending in every direction.
Game Three. Trainers. Approximately 2000 years ago ... In short, our body of knowledge today is much more than before, but not all men are still good in him understand. The other hand brought a wealth of special teaching and explaining the literature, including the glossy magazines. They say that works well for breakfast read was the article about the "triple" affection, you accidentally forgotten on the kitchen table. In the evening you can check whether the partner is well learned material, but if you read carefully enough - to pass on the items or sections of the textbook.
Game Four. Winding with a half turn. Many couples today practice a temporary waiver of sex, then to tear each other apart. Well, that makes sense, but the severity of the upcoming sensations sex instructors offer a slight mockery: to torment and harass a partner in the week, allowing him to unbutton his shirt, pressing up to you rubbing your back or in the soul of the special aromatic oils.
Game Five. Diary. Do not forget amateur thrills, of course, and about blogs. It is assumed that both partners without censorship tell each other about the sensations experienced in all available forms and expressions, but in the end of each record attribute observations: what they want, where and how. Doing some instructions on the application will not only stirred (or perevozbuditsya), but turned into a life of everything, even the most shameful desires.
Game Six. Blind. You freeze in any position convenient to you (at the wall or in bed), and your pratner comes to you with a blindfold and trying to get you in a given body part. Your role, of course, is to ask the most difficult places to enjoy lasted as long as possible.
Game seventh. Re-read Nabokov. Yes, and nothing funny. You thought that "Lolita" has long been gathering dust everywhere, including men's minds, but it is not. There is evidence that men initiate role-play in school. First, it returns them in the first emotional feelings, and, secondly, allows you to rediscover each other. The most interesting thing in this game - not crossing the line from petting to action as long as possible. Try to prolong the pleasure, not only for braids pull.
Game eighth. In a horoscope. First you study your sexual compatibility and better posture, and then verify these axioms, in fact. If everything fits together - is a calendar where your congress subject to strict control stars. Today you're on top it tomorrow, and nothing else. This allows the structure to explore all your options and wait for a certain lunar day for the best posture of the month. In a sign of the moon today ...?
Game ninth. Guessing. Will be needed to bandage his eyes and a set of different textural materials and objects (pieces of leather, fur, satin, linen, pearl beads, some figurines, fruit). One partner takes the subject and very slowly on the skin conducts partner. The subject also has to guess exactly what the subject he enjoys. The winner of the game in the sensuality is the one who guessed more subjects.
Game tenth. Internal bluetooth. Players undress, sit opposite each other and throw the lot - who make wishes, and who read minds. One of the players to guess sexual desire, such as "kiss me in the eye" or "loans rather have sex with me" and another player is looking into the eyes of your partner and tries to read his thoughts. Then he can start the action and watch his reaction. Everything happens in silence, and "true-false" is read by the eyes.
Playing first, virtual. We have written many times, come across as to correspond to Facebook `e Hollywood stars: they are each other passionate letters to send, then engaged in virtual sex. Not so this is surprising: having at hand a personal page of the desired object and the form to send a message - not a sin to write something like "I want you, my sweet as well as yesterday, in the midst of a busy day. Znakotoki argue that doing this is time before dinner, and at lunchtime the recipient and the sender is already somewhere not quite lunch.
Game Two. Tuning. Approximately 2000 years ago, the first lady of Egypt, Cleopatra ordered one of the first vibrators-bamboo with bees inside. How true this story, and how long kept bees own vibration inside bamboo. history is silent, but well aware that today the situation with vibrators changed for the better. One of the latest innovations - vibrator sides, one end of which vibrate for you, and the second - for him. Can you imagine this invention, considering that the entire structure is hollow and bending in every direction.
Game Three. Trainers. Approximately 2000 years ago ... In short, our body of knowledge today is much more than before, but not all men are still good in him understand. The other hand brought a wealth of special teaching and explaining the literature, including the glossy magazines. They say that works well for breakfast read was the article about the "triple" affection, you accidentally forgotten on the kitchen table. In the evening you can check whether the partner is well learned material, but if you read carefully enough - to pass on the items or sections of the textbook.
Game Four. Winding with a half turn. Many couples today practice a temporary waiver of sex, then to tear each other apart. Well, that makes sense, but the severity of the upcoming sensations sex instructors offer a slight mockery: to torment and harass a partner in the week, allowing him to unbutton his shirt, pressing up to you rubbing your back or in the soul of the special aromatic oils.
Game Five. Diary. Do not forget amateur thrills, of course, and about blogs. It is assumed that both partners without censorship tell each other about the sensations experienced in all available forms and expressions, but in the end of each record attribute observations: what they want, where and how. Doing some instructions on the application will not only stirred (or perevozbuditsya), but turned into a life of everything, even the most shameful desires.
Game Six. Blind. You freeze in any position convenient to you (at the wall or in bed), and your pratner comes to you with a blindfold and trying to get you in a given body part. Your role, of course, is to ask the most difficult places to enjoy lasted as long as possible.
Game seventh. Re-read Nabokov. Yes, and nothing funny. You thought that "Lolita" has long been gathering dust everywhere, including men's minds, but it is not. There is evidence that men initiate role-play in school. First, it returns them in the first emotional feelings, and, secondly, allows you to rediscover each other. The most interesting thing in this game - not crossing the line from petting to action as long as possible. Try to prolong the pleasure, not only for braids pull.
Game eighth. In a horoscope. First you study your sexual compatibility and better posture, and then verify these axioms, in fact. If everything fits together - is a calendar where your congress subject to strict control stars. Today you're on top it tomorrow, and nothing else. This allows the structure to explore all your options and wait for a certain lunar day for the best posture of the month. In a sign of the moon today ...?
Game ninth. Guessing. Will be needed to bandage his eyes and a set of different textural materials and objects (pieces of leather, fur, satin, linen, pearl beads, some figurines, fruit). One partner takes the subject and very slowly on the skin conducts partner. The subject also has to guess exactly what the subject he enjoys. The winner of the game in the sensuality is the one who guessed more subjects.
Game tenth. Internal bluetooth. Players undress, sit opposite each other and throw the lot - who make wishes, and who read minds. One of the players to guess sexual desire, such as "kiss me in the eye" or "loans rather have sex with me" and another player is looking into the eyes of your partner and tries to read his thoughts. Then he can start the action and watch his reaction. Everything happens in silence, and "true-false" is read by the eyes.
The most important meeting
In my imagination you already has tried many options, from the romantic to the extreme. But as it actually happens - that is the question. We show you how to jump into the maelstrom of passion and not losing their heads.
The switch whether to have sex on a first date?
Yes, if you are sure that you want it. You are not obliged to go to bed just because you fed dinner at a restaurant or make a gift. Love does not charge for services, and your relationship - not a business. But if you really set up for sex, then take the initiative does not prohibit. Especially if you see that your partner a bit shy. Believe me, it happens more often than we think, and do not think that he considers you disbanded.
What better to agree in advance?
Only in the movies, everything happens spontaneously and with an incredibly romantic. In reality, you two should at least discuss, where and when you are this will take. Of course, it is better if the conditions are comfortable: a shower, clean sheets, nice music ...
If you decide to spend the night in your territory, do not have to cook dinner to show off cooking skills. First, you and so you'll be nervous, and extra chores for you to anything. Secondly, there are many establishments where you can go to eat, and good service always gives a feeling of celebration.
It is important to agree how you will protect themselves. And do it better than the process, and in advance. Buying condoms is a purely male affair, but if you put in front of a rendezvous bag packing - nothing terrible will happen.
How to behave in the bedroom?
How to get rid of the nuisance you embarrassment Trapped? Do not attempt to depict the man whom you are not, behave in natural ways and say what you feel. It is normal to be heard questions like "And so do you like?" Or: "And if I do like that you feel?" So you make it easier for not only myself but also his partner. However, if you have psychic abilities, and you can easily guessed the thoughts of other people can do without problems.
What if the situation takes an unexpected turn?
Admit it, a man with a stable psyche will not play "a prostitute and client, as soon as you find yourself in the bedroom. And also do not offer you sex threesome, and not climb into a cupboard for a whip complete with leather accoutrements. About such things partners agree that a long time and know each other well. And if you are already on the first date is your companion behaved aggressively, and strive to make you sick, maybe with it is goodbye.
Says a lot about the man and how he behaves after sex. If he is a gentleman, well, or just to be well educated, make sure you say a few gentle words, kiss or carefully ykroet you a blanket. And if he starts to criticize your chest, your press and other parts of the body, say this "wise guy" that you do not have time to listen to all sorts of nonsense.
By the way, and you have his body can cause rejection. That is, until he gave the flowers and your communication is not passed into intimacy, it may seem to you very interesting and even spectacular. And in the bedroom suddenly find that you do not like its smell, its annoying habit to lay out the socks on the chair, and then, as he makes love - too.
Perhaps, in this case, you better meet the dawn separately. Do not tear his irritation in humans. In the end, he wanted to do better.
The switch whether to have sex on a first date?
Yes, if you are sure that you want it. You are not obliged to go to bed just because you fed dinner at a restaurant or make a gift. Love does not charge for services, and your relationship - not a business. But if you really set up for sex, then take the initiative does not prohibit. Especially if you see that your partner a bit shy. Believe me, it happens more often than we think, and do not think that he considers you disbanded.
What better to agree in advance?
Only in the movies, everything happens spontaneously and with an incredibly romantic. In reality, you two should at least discuss, where and when you are this will take. Of course, it is better if the conditions are comfortable: a shower, clean sheets, nice music ...
If you decide to spend the night in your territory, do not have to cook dinner to show off cooking skills. First, you and so you'll be nervous, and extra chores for you to anything. Secondly, there are many establishments where you can go to eat, and good service always gives a feeling of celebration.
It is important to agree how you will protect themselves. And do it better than the process, and in advance. Buying condoms is a purely male affair, but if you put in front of a rendezvous bag packing - nothing terrible will happen.
How to behave in the bedroom?
How to get rid of the nuisance you embarrassment Trapped? Do not attempt to depict the man whom you are not, behave in natural ways and say what you feel. It is normal to be heard questions like "And so do you like?" Or: "And if I do like that you feel?" So you make it easier for not only myself but also his partner. However, if you have psychic abilities, and you can easily guessed the thoughts of other people can do without problems.
What if the situation takes an unexpected turn?
Admit it, a man with a stable psyche will not play "a prostitute and client, as soon as you find yourself in the bedroom. And also do not offer you sex threesome, and not climb into a cupboard for a whip complete with leather accoutrements. About such things partners agree that a long time and know each other well. And if you are already on the first date is your companion behaved aggressively, and strive to make you sick, maybe with it is goodbye.
Says a lot about the man and how he behaves after sex. If he is a gentleman, well, or just to be well educated, make sure you say a few gentle words, kiss or carefully ykroet you a blanket. And if he starts to criticize your chest, your press and other parts of the body, say this "wise guy" that you do not have time to listen to all sorts of nonsense.
By the way, and you have his body can cause rejection. That is, until he gave the flowers and your communication is not passed into intimacy, it may seem to you very interesting and even spectacular. And in the bedroom suddenly find that you do not like its smell, its annoying habit to lay out the socks on the chair, and then, as he makes love - too.
Perhaps, in this case, you better meet the dawn separately. Do not tear his irritation in humans. In the end, he wanted to do better.
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