Before you say "yes" ...

Do you know the reason for much of the marriage breaks up? It is simple - the partners have not discussed the important issues before you play a wedding. If you do not want to repeat their mistakes - we offer you to explore topics that are sure to raise a serious conversation with your man.
Topic 1. The reasons for marriage.

The answer is "because I love you" in this case is not accepted, because it's important to get to the other, underlying, reasons for marriage. And they will be the key to understanding the basic needs of each other. Let each of you to make a list of several items - why he wants to marry (marry). Answers can be: 'because I want to have children, "because it requires my religion," because only marriage will provide the security, etc.

Once the lists will be drawn up - need to verify. Pay attention to those items that you have a match with a partner and, conversely, are different. If the process you feel uncomfortable, frustrated - it is a signal to make a serious talk and try to find a compromise between your needs.

Topic 2. Model family.

Each of you must examine - a relationship which families affected his life. It may be parents, uncles, aunts, friends, etc. Make a list of these pairs, then go for each item and ask yourself: what I want to borrow the family, and what to avoid?

Once you and your partner to make this one work, tell each other about its results, and discuss what you agree or disagree with each other. It is very important - because they are married you will subconsciously copying the behavior of other families. And if you do not understand how you came this or that desire, and what it can lead - you can "mess of things and spoil relations with her beloved.
Try to partner with an overall model of the family, which would suit both of you. You do not forget about such important part:

- Leisure: spend all their free time together or separately?
- Communicate with parents and friends: how close and frequent, it will be?
- Quarrels: how often they are allowed?

Topic 3. Your expectations.

Let each of you would be about a vision of how to proceed will be your "everyday labor", that is daily life together. You will both be working or someone you devote himself a household and raising children? Who will do the distribution of the budget and how will this budget - overall or separately? How do you divide the housework? These and other questions also need to consider before you get married. And if at the stage of discussion, disagreement arise - once worth trying to solve them.

Do not lose sight of any of these three themes - each in its own way is important to preserve your future marriage. Try to reach an understanding on all counts - and then you can be sure that we have done everything possible to create a family of their dreams.